Hey lovely ladies!
Today’s Five minute Friday is all about FORGIVENESS. So it’s like Five Minute Forgiveness Friday– how’s that for an alliteration?
In fact- that brings up a good point. How long do you give yourself to forgive those around you? What are you teaching your kids about the principle of forgiveness? I’m sharing today about how imperative it is to forgive the HARDEST person to forgive- OURSELVES.
I tend to be the harshest critic of myself and can easily go into a memory of a time I lost my temper or took my kids for granted. I think one of the worst things we do as mothers is to lay in bed and torture ourselves for the wrongs of the day- instead of realizing how quickly our own kids forgave us! When I tuck my babies in, they are not focused on what mommy did bad that day. They are already looking forward to a good nights sleep and a fresh day tomorrow. So why don’t I do the same?
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Hey Mama, on today’s five-minute Friday episode, we are talking about forgiveness. Should I write a whole song? I feel like we could do a whole episode in just song form. In fact, I watched an episode of one of my favorite TV shows American Housewife last night, and it was a musical episode, and it made my day. It was amazing. It made me so happy. [laughter] But, we’re not gonna do that today, necessarily. No musical rendition of five-minute Friday fantasticness.
We’re just gonna talk about something that can be a little bit of an emotional topic, and we only have five minutes to discuss it, and we’ve already lost like what? A few minutes, a few seconds just talking about talking about it. That’s my bad. So forgiveness. Forgiveness is just like saying sorry. What is that from? I don’t even know. It’s from a really funny show. But forgiveness is super important, and it’s something that I am coping, grope… Mm-mm, not groping. It’s something I’m trying to grasp, it’s something that I’m trying to really comprehend in a deeper way because I’ve gone through experiences as a mother where… You guys do you realize how quickly your children forgive you? Do you realize how fast they move on from a moment?
And sometimes, that little piece of them that forgets to pick up their shoes because they’re so caught in their own imagination, and they are so caught up in their own thoughts, and just their own state of being. I don’t even think it’s thoughts. I think that children have the ability to just be, in a way that we as adults have forgotten how to do. I think that’s why we have to meditate and do yoga, and learn to master the ego, but children already do it. It’s something that we slowly kind of grow out of.
And anyway, that little thing, that beautiful factor that children have the ability to just live in la-la land, is the very factor that we should be grateful for that helps them to forget the awful moments when we lose our temper, when we lose our stuff right? Like when we kinda go crazy. And for me… And even… Even the moments if it’s not going crazy and losing your temper it’s… I’ve posted this on social media, I got some really really loving great feedback from you guys on Instagram. If you wanna go check that out a few posts back. But I’m gonna post about it again today about forgiveness. I missed my daughter’s pre-school graduation, and this year I didn’t.
It was okay. That sounds funny. Pre-school graduation last year, it was just a program, her pre-school program. She had another full year of pre-school, and that was kind of how I forgave myself in the moment. This isn’t the last time, you get to have another pre-school moment. So I went this year, and I was super tempted to ask her if she remembered last year, of mommy not being there because for various reasons, I had missed it.
But I held off because I was like… “I’m just gonna see… I’m gonna see if she brings it up, if she remembers that ever happened.” And of course, because she was four years old, a new four, she had just turned four last year, she didn’t remember a single thing, she didn’t remember it at all. She didn’t bring it up, and if she does remember it, I probably have to try pretty hard to jog her memory. And so why if she forgave me almost instantly, within days she wasn’t talking about it or bringing it up. She wasn’t still crying about it. Why has it taken me over a year to forgive myself for a mistake that I made, that wasn’t even out of vicious anger or losing my temper. It was just a moment of thoughtless absence, of common sense, of having my life together, of being a busy mom who works from home.
It shouldn’t be that difficult. Right? We need to forgive ourselves at the level that our children are forgiving us, because they are so quick to love, they are so quick to move on, and to see us for who we truly are, and we should be doing the same thing for ourselves. We really should. So, come chat with me on social media, let’s talk about forgiveness. Drop maybe in the comments over on my Instagram post, something that you have not forgiven yourself for, and let’s work through it together, because hanging on to lack of forgiveness for yourself, holds you back from true growth, and if you can step into that space of forgiving the mistakes, forgiving the things that you’ve done wrong in the past, that’s where you can grow. Those are the moments that we can learn from, and that help us to develop to be even more marvelous moms.
So, hope you’ve enjoyed today’s five-minute Friday. Again, go leave a comment on Instagram. You guys are fabulous, thank you so much for all you guys have done to build up our community, and to help us to grow. Hope you’re having a beautiful summer, and we’ll see you next week on the five-minute Friday episode. Have a marvelous day.
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